Women Bounce Back Faster Than Men After A Breakup–– Because, Yes, We Are Tough And Can Do It All

Our grief may be deeper, but we’re not dwelling on it.

Movies, books, TV shows––you name it, they all dominantly portray women as highly emotional creatures who are consumed by male relationships. We want them, we need them and we are shattered if the relationship ends. Well, science says part of that is true, but women are actually way more stable and able to bounce back more quickly after a breakup than men because women are tough and get sh*t done.

We experience more pain, but there’s a silver lining

According to researchers, women’s behavior post-breakup is actually less destructive than men’s. After a breakup, women feel more angry, anxious and deeper pain, but we also recover more fully. We tend to turn to friends and family for support which helps women cope and move on faster.

According to research, on the other hand, men often avoid introspection and self-examination, so outwardly they just “move on” while inwardly they can experience months and years of resentment and depression. In the study conducted by Craig Morris, men actually reported feeling more lost and depressed after their split, while women felt more anger and anxiety post-breakup.

The numbers behind our breakup behavior

All of this new info on the emotional badassery of women comes from a study from Binghamton University and The University College of London. Researchers surveyed 5,705 participants spanning 96 countries and asked them to rate their breakup pain on a physical and emotional scale from 0 (no pain) to 10 (unbearable). The study found that women averaged a level of 6.84 in terms of their emotional anguish compared to men’s 6.58. Women also felt more physical pain post-breakup than men, weighing in at a 4.21 average versus men’s 3.75.

While the numbers state women experience more pain during a breakup, they are able to come out the other side emotionally stronger. According to Morris, men tend to look for a quick solution to heartbreak, often in another relationship. By never confronting actual feelings they can cause self-destructive behavior down the line.

So, ladies, the science says, “Good for you!”  Even though we may feel gutted from our breakup by golly, we will come out the other side a strong soldier, just like Xena Warrior Princess.

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How to get Promoted at a Job You Hate

This article was originally featured on MarieClaire.com on June 13, 2017. 



Have you ever hated something so much you eventually got good at it? Think about it…you used to hate working out but you knew it was good for your emotional and physical health. You used to hate eating vegetables but now you're totally on board with kale. What actually changed? Your hatred or your outlook? Here's how to turn that white-hot passion of hatred into the highlight on your resume.

1.Get Validation from Yourself

Oh millennials. The running joke is that we need constant validation and attention. While this may be true to some extent, millennials are hardworking and innovative. Do you think your boss doesn't care about you? Hate to break it to you, but you might be right, so get your validation from yourself. Another way to shift your mindset is to ask yourself what you want to hear or need from another person and start telling that to yourself. Get in the habit of asking yourself "What do I need right now?" Do you need a walk to clear your head? Do you need a tea from the café down the street or to do some deep breathing at your desk? Once you start validating your feelings and understanding what you need it reinforces to yourself that you're important and worthy. I know, easier said than done.

2. Be Curious and Hungry

So, you hate your job, your boss and everything about your 9-to-5 situation, correct? Use this fuel to ignite your work ethic and portfolio. Be curious. If your boss gives you a dull assignment on insurance practices, try new strategies for this assignment. Research new techniques or a different way to present this information. If you're getting dismissed or yelled at anyway, might as well get reprimanded for some quality work that's presented in a creative and unique way. Being sick of your job can actually give you a sense of freedom to go crazy and start making stuff that you're proud to show off as your own work.

3.Research the Industry and Know What Skills You Need to Move Up

Hating your job means you will inevitably be job hunting, so peruse the growing industry to see what skills you lack, and start developing them now. If you're finding that Photoshop and video-editing skills are a must, dive into that and grow as much as you can in that area with your current job. Start experimenting at work to create something you can put on your resume for the future.

4. Learn from Coworkers in Other Departments

If you knew more than just your defined job role, wouldn't you be a dangerous weapon in the job market? Became a Jill of All Trades by investing in your coworker's roles and daily duties. Collaborate, brainstorm, and help them with any project they need. Not only does this give you goodwill in the company, but you're also learning new skills and trades that will make you a seriously beneficial hire.

5.Do the Sh*t No One Else Wants to Do

Since you already hate your job, why not add to the misery by volunteering for committees, meetings, and projects that get you away from your desk and allow you to interact with new people? Sign up for the jobs that no one wants. Attend your HR talent management programs. You might grow in new ways.

I Lived Like the Cat Hanging out by My dumpster for a Week and Here's What Happened

photo cred: Workaholics

The one-week celebrity experiments are taking the world by storm. Kylie Jenner's beauty routine and Kim Kardashian’s diet are the rage in journalism, so I wanted to hop on the band wagon and try a similar approach but with the skinny feline outside my dumpster. She's frisky, dirty and has that ‘90s grunge look I’ve never been able to pull off. I lived like her for one week and here's how it changed my life.


I really stopped eating any food that wasn’t in a garbage can, left on the street, or in a restaurant dumpster. This made my choices for nutrition and overall taste extremely limited. It also opened my eyes to the world we live in and how much food we don’t need! Culture has ruined our tastebuds. We don’t need fancy cheese and aged wine. Did you know apple cores, stale crackers and peanut shells are all we really need to survive? I didn’t either, but my waistline thanked me. I finally lost that freshman 15 from six year ago. My complexion and overall irritability was at an all time low but it really helped me get into the headspace of my feline dumpster diver.


I also stopped partaking in the human rituals of basic hygiene. No more time wasted on brushing my hair, bathing, oral hygiene or washing my face. It’s crazy how much time we really waste on society’s demands for looking so fresh and so clean, clean. I rejected all of society’s demands on women and instead ate out of the dumpster and got that Kate-Moss-dating-Johnny-Depp-circa-1994 look I was really going for.

Emotional Stability:

I became totally anxious and a huge bitch for the week. The anxious part is nothing new, but I really exuded the nervousness and twitchy body language of my feline muse. She was skittish and ran away at human interaction, I did the same thing. This caused a rift in my relationship and a potential job loss, but I’m a method writer and lived the life of my subject for a week. For great art you have to make great sacrifices.


Overall Satisfaction:

How would I rate my experience? Totally worth it!! I lost a ton of weight and despite getting scabies and scurvy, I really found my ‘90s grunge signature look. Sure, I lost my job and my boyfriend, but I did gain dark circles under my eyes, hollowed-out cheekbones and the trendy anxiety symptoms every 20 something has these days. I avoid human interaction completely now, but at least now I can rebrand myself and my Instagram presence.

I want to thank my mangy dumpster cat for changing my life and my look. I also want to thank the UPS delivery guy for my new home.